Have you taken the time to think about who you'll invite to be present when you give birth? Are you hoping for a more intimate experience with just your partner? Or are you wanting other family members in the room to help you welcome your newest addition? Creating the perfect team is very much an important part of your birth experience, so take the time to review your options and make the best decision for you and your partner. Here are a few of those options to consider when inviting people to your birth:
1. Obstetric Provider: Your OB provider is your primary clinical support person. Think about the following questions when choosing your provider:
Do you want a Midwife or an Obstetrician?
Do you share similar values and philosophy about birth?
Does your provider attend births are your preferred delivery location?
Have you met all the providers that share 'call' rotation and could possibly be at your birth?
2. Birth Doula: Doulas are trained to provide advice, information, emotional support and physical comfort to a mother and partner before, during and just after childbirth. Doulas can help you and your partner better understand all of your options to help you make the best decisions while in labor and during birth. The following questions should be considered when weighing the option of hiring a doula:
Do you feel comfortable sharing your birth space with a doula?
What training and/or experience does your birth doula have?
Will your choice doula definitely be able to attend your birth, or do they have a reliable back-up in case of an emergency?
Do you know somebody to make a doula recommendation?
3. Your Mother, Mother-in-Law and/or Other Family Members: Your feelings toward having support from close female family members is very individual and could be based on family dynamics. Before making the decision to invite your mother, MIL or other family members into your birthing space, weigh the following questions:
Do you really want them there or do you feel 'obligated' to have them?
Will this support person be dedicated to fully helping you?
Will this person add calm energy to the room?
Are you able to fully relax around this person?
4. Photographer and/or Videographer: You may want to document this very special experience with professional photos or videos. Ask the following when considering this service:
Do you love their birth photography gallery?
Will they be able to add calm energy to the room?
Are you able to have an in-person meeting before booking their services?
Do you know somebody to make a photographer recommendation?
If you have any questions about forming your perfect birth team, feel free to reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.